A Perfect Night for a Fire

Last night, Keith and I enjoyed the evening drinking a bottle of wine, snacking, and talking about life around the our backyard fire.  How beautiful a day it was, sunny with a high of 60 degrees, falling to an evening with a slight breeze perfect for the fire pit.

Our discussion quickly turned to work, with my new job and all.  It dawned on me that in some respect, work is a means to an end – a way to get the money to do all the stuff you actually want to do.  And yet, to Keith and many others, it’s also a life goal.  A pursuit of happiness.

A pursuit of happiness, but at what cost?  All too often, men and women alike, pursue careers that leave those who love them in the dust.

I think this article from Relevant really hits the nail on the head, even though it’s more about not liking your job than working too much…

“…your dream job may cause you to give your best years and best effort to your work, not to your husband, wife, children, friends or neighbors. So, before you throw your all into the “pursuit of happiness,” ask yourself, “Will this career path facilitate the happiness of people other than me?” If it will, spectacular. If it will not, do some pondering.”

As I start to enjoy my new job, I have to think about these things.  I want my family.  I want to spend time with my stepdaughters, and I want to cultivate a happy marriage.  My work is not as important to me than raising and knowing two beautiful-on-the-inside children.  My work is not as important to me than doing all I can for Christ and the Church.  My work is not as important to me than taking good care of my husband and my marriage.

 

Do you struggle with putting work and joy in your career in front of those you love and who love you?

Wedding Highlight Reel

I was so excited yesterday to get this highlight reel!  I may have had 5 women from my office gathered around my monitor watching the 5 minute delight.

The day started as we gathered at the salon – 3 bridesmaids, 2 mothers, 2 stepdaughters, 2 nieces, 1 baby, and the bride.  With tears on the brink the entire day, you can see my forced calm as I get ready transformed into unparalleled excitement as I meet my handsome groom at the alter, and a humbling knowledge of our commitment as we are led through our carefully thought-out ceremony.

A few formal pictures later, and Keith whisks me into our magical reception.  It was wonderful to dance with him, my dad, and all the little girls.  The food was unbelievably delicious.  Every single detail came together, and all the work I’d put in to coordinate every color, every font, and every sentiment, paid off.

I love this man and these girls.  As Keith sits beside me and works on his coding and I on this page before work, I praise God for blessing and challenging us with the covenant of marriage.

 

As I swoon over this video, a bit of Song of Solomon humor…

Strengthen me with raisins,
refresh me with apples,
for I am faint with love.
-Song of Solomon 2:5

Wedding Pictures Are In!

We had an absolutely incredible wedding and honeymoon!  Thank you to all who celebrated and thought of us and our little family over the last month.

Want to see a few pictures?  I’ll compile little posts here and there, but here’s just a few.

I can’t help starting with this handsome man… my husband!

Craftadon.com - HandsomeHubby

Our ceremony was absolutely beautiful.  This is Poppy (my dad) reading a book that fits us to a T.

Craftadon.com - Poppy Reading

Then, between the ceremony and reception, K and I got a few minutes to snap a couple pictures, enjoy some… kisses…, have a drink, and eat at least one of each hors d’oeuvres.

Craftadon.com - Portrait In Arches

Before long, it was time for our first dance.  The band was wonderful; the dance was magical.

Craftadon.com - First Dance

And then, it was time to take a few tequila shots and head upstairs.

We love being married.

A Wedding Planning Update

We’re well within 2 months now.  That’s awesome!  There’s SO much to do, but I wouldn’t want it any farther away.

I really can’t wait to marry this guy.

Here’s my revised list:

Finished since… a month ago

Picked up bridesmaids’ dresses
Attended my final dress fitting (it was a little tight!)
Ordered photo book for guest book
Ordered book of engagement pix to show at shower
Rescheduled our honeymoon (yep… had to start all over, but yay! It”s done!)
Ordered ceremony music
Borrowed a bracelet from a friend & earrings from my cousin
Bought baskets for programs
Designed table numbers
Designed menu cards
Sent an email to our officiants about our ceremony outline
Determined a ceremony outline
Designed a sign for the guestbook
Bought little easels to display signs
Sewed groomsmen’s bowties
Got the ring bearer’s outfits (adorb)
Made a cute custom sweatshirt for myself

June

Gather $$ from bridesmaids (since I ordered their dresses)
Help find a MoB dress (might happen soon!)
Mail bridesmaids’ dresses to sister & future sister-in-law
Figure out what to get ready in
Sew tutus for flower girls & jr. bridesmaids
Make some thank-you cards in advance
Make table numbers
Collect wine bottles
Start designing place cards
Make cute shirts for ring bearers for rehearsal
Pick final floral design (appointment this week)

July

Bachelor party
Go over the set list with the band
Talk to officiants about ceremony
Organize church rental availability like candelabras
Double check groomsmen’s outfits
Make a sign for the bar
Gather Bibles for ring bearers
Attend hair & makeup trials (already scheduled)
Make music play-list for pre-wedding
Bridal Shower
Write thank-yous for bridal shower
Send thank-yous for bridal shower
Seating chart (ugh.)
Make place cards
Obtain marriage license
Decide on tips for vendors (already know what I’ll do for our photographer)
Make sign for the guest book
Finalize day-of timeline
Design programs
Make programs
Make menu cards
Schedule rehearsal dinner tasting
Decide on rehearsal dinner food
Compile picture list for photographer
Confirm who’s taking us to and from the church
Wrap gifts for bridal party

August

Pick up my gorgeous dress
Drop all reception items off
Drop all church items off
Steam & deliver tablecloths to reception venue
Assemble bathroom supplies
Print & distribute day-of timeline
Get married (woot!)
Have an amazing honeymoon (ahhhhh…)
Make tattoo appointment
Get marriage tattoos… yeah, we’re doing that.

Wedding Planning is Insane.

My number one nugget of wedding wisdom so far?

DIY is great.  Saves lots of money, adds personality, bla bla bla.

Go with a wedding planner.  Wedding planning is insane.

 

**Side note… I’m glad I’m doing everything.  Saving lots of money, adding personality, etc. are very me, and to do anything different wouldn’t feel like my wedding.  It’s just a lot.  A LOT. of work.

Life, Wedding Planning, and the Pursuit of Happiness (and awesome sex)

It’s been almost a month since my last post, but I’m still alive.  It’s not just the wedding planning that’s keeping me, it’s end-of-the-school-year-kid-programs, sister-having-a-baby, busy-at-work, helping-mom-move stuff that gets me!  This week I was so pooped after work and appointments and making (or picking up) dinner that I just couldn’t do anything.

Nevertheless, life happily goes on.  Over and over K and I are amazed at the blessings that cover our life and family, and the knowledge that we’ll be married till death do we part is settling in.  I think it’s partly due to our marriage counseling and general talking through our future together.

The last chapter we read for our marriage counseling talked about ATTITUDE and got us thinking a lot.

(Don’t tell K that I was almost falling asleep while he was reading though!  I’ve been tired lately, remember?)

We talked about a whole bunch of stuff concerning attitude in marriage, mostly because, well, it’s not our strength.  We get grumpy.  And yet, it’s crucial to a happy marriage!

What’s your attitude in your marriage?  Do you give your spouse the benefit of the doubt, or do you jump to bad conclusions?  When you have to pick up his/her slack on the housework or outside work or kid work, do you do so joyfully, willingly, or do you blame him or her?

Do you act like you love your spouse?  Not in public… but in private? In attitude?

Something I’m not so good at is keeping my attitude positive when K’s being negative.  We talked about how frustrating it is to be brought down or disappointed by each other… and then each realized that our attitude is something we choose.  I can’t blame him for bringing me down.  We each choose our attitudes in the midst of any situation just like we can choose to forgive, or to love, or to serve our spouses.

With a positive attitude a marriage will thrive!

Positive Attitudes + Marriage = Awesome Sex

That’s what I’m telling myself, anyway.  I imagine sex wouldn’t be too good if spouses don’t have good attitudes toward each other.  It’s one of those things you tell yourself so you can get through the hard times and hope for something you like.  Dealing with someone else’s or changing your own attitude can be hard, but in the end you get a happy marriage and awesome sex.

If that’s not good motivation I dunno what else is.

 

P.S. I’ll update you with wedding plans next week. Promise.

Bad blogger. An update.

I know, I know… it’s hard to call yourself a blogger when you so rarely blog.

But really – I’ve been busy – promise!  Not just with wedding stuff, but life as well.  K was an organizer of Startup Weekend Delaware, which made the whole fam busy, busy, busy.  Also, I took by orange belt test in karate, I sold my motorcycle (still looking for a new, bigger, badder one), we went to a 3 yr old bday party, and we started more intensely working on our first app.  Yes, an app by K and me… Gittie Labs is our brain child with our couple good friends.  That’s not all we did, though that IS a lot, now that I think about it.

 

Enough about me… and onto the wedding stuff.  My most embarrassing moment was realizing I misspelled Mr. President’s name (Barak instead of Barack) on his family’s wedding invitation.  I probably shouldn’t drink and do important spelling wedding stuff at 11pm, huh.  Woops – sorry Mr. & Mrs. Barack Obama & Family!  I’ll get your invite in the mail soon enough for you to not come anyway.

 

Since my last post we’ve…

Had engagement pictures taken
Ordered K’s suit
Talked to church organist
Bought postage for invites
Made garter
Mailed invitations
Payed band deposit
Found somewhere to donate flowers
Designed thank-you cards
Made veil
Designed place cards
Reserved hotel rooms
Made shoe stickers
Compiled day-of emergency kit
Booked an accompanist for ceremony
Talked song list with the band
Decidde on ceremony music

All that, and yet we still have…

May

Organize church rental availability like candelabras
Gather $$ from bridesmaids (since I ordered their dresses)
Schedule final dress fitting
Order photo book for guest book (after we get our pics back)
Book dinners on honeymoon (did research already)
Order ceremony sheet music if needed
Find bracelet for bride
Buy baskets for programs
Buy baskets for kids’ books

June

Attend final dress fitting
Pick up bridesmaids’ dresses
Help find a MoB dress
Mail bridesmaids’ dresses to sister & future sister-in-law
Organize bridal party outfits for getting ready
Design table numbers
Make thank-you cards
Make table numbers
Start making place cards
Find family pictures to showcase if any
Talk to officiants about ceremony

July

Bachelor party
Pick final floral design
Make tattoo appointment
Double check groomsmen’s outfits
Make a sign for the bar
Gather Bibles for ring bearers
Attend hair & makeup trials
Make music play-list for pre-wedding
Bridal Shower
Bachelorette party
Write thank-yous for bridal shower
Send thank-yous for bridal shower
Make place cards
Obtain marriage license
Decide on tips for vendors
Design thank you/tips for vendors
Make a sign for the guest book
Finalize day-of timeline
Design programs
Make programs
Design menu cards
Make menu cards
Schedule rehearsal dinner tasting
Decide on rehearsal dinner food
Compile picture list for photographer
Decide on rehearsal dinner decor & put it all together
Confirm who’s taking us to and from the church
Wrap gifts for bridal party

August

Pick up my gorgeous dress
Drop all reception items off
Drop all church items off
Steam & deliver tablecloths to reception venue
Assemble bathroom supplies
Print & distribute day-of timeline
Get married
Have an amazing honeymoon
Get forever marriage tattoos… yeah, we’re doing that.

It’s going to be here before we know it.  And boy, we’re excited.

Crunch Time… 99 Days To Go!

With only 99 days to go, I’m having all these little OMG-I’M-GETTING-MARRIED-AND-I-CAN’T-WAIT-AND-I-GET-TO-MARRY-K-AND-I-CAN’T-WAIT moments.  Interspersed are things like honeymoon excitement, dress excitement, summer excitement, house excitement, step mom-to-be excitement… basically anything having to do with embarking on this ridiculously exciting time in my life!

In a text to my sister this week, I wrote, “I’m so excited! I’m glad K likes my joie de vivre because I think it’s here to stay!”

lol.

Ok, so if you’re wondering, I didn’t get everything done in May that I wanted to.  BUT I did get some of the June things done, so we’re flip flopping a little.  Not too shabby.

 

Things I’ve done from last time’s update…

Booked hair & makeup trials
Signed band contract
Signed florist contract & paid deposit
Booked 2nd to last dress fitting
Bought postage for & stamped RSVP cards
Stuffed ALL the invites!
Finished gathering all the invitees’ addresses
Mailed an invite to myself
Bought postage for thank-you cards
Got my shower invite in the mail (thanks, Sarah!)
Designed & made our little marriage advice thing
Started premarital counseling
Picked groomsmen’s suits
Picked out/shopped for engagement pictures outfits
Bought vintage lace to make my garter
Picked up my wedding band… gorgeous.
Bought an amazing hair clip on Etsy, which I have yet to receive

 

Things still to do…

May

Have engagement pictures taken
Order K’s suit
Talk to church organist (I’ve left… 3 messages so far)
Organize church rental availability like candelabras
Gather $$ from bridesmaids (since I ordered their dresses)
Buy postage for invites
Mail invitations
Schedule final dress fitting
Pay band deposit
Design thank-you cards (started)
Make veil (half-way done)
Buy K’s shoes (I think he’s waiting for a sale)
Order photo book for guest book (after we have them taken!)
Reserve hotel rooms
Make shoe stickers (on the docket for this weekend)
Buy rehearsal dinner outfit (on a visit to/from my dad)
Book dinners on honeymoon (did research already)
Order ceremony sheet music (after talking to organist)
Book an accompanist if needed (after talking to organist)
Talk song list with the band
Find bracelet for bride
Decide on ceremony music
Buy baskets for programs
Buy baskets for kids’ books

June

Attend final dress fitting
Pick up bridesmaids’ dresses
Help find a MoB dress
Make garter
Mail bridesmaids’ dresses to sister & future sister-in-law
Compile day-of emergency kit
Organize outfits for getting ready
Design table numbers
Make thank-you cards
Make table numbers
Design & start place cards
Find family pictures to showcase if any
Talk to officiants about ceremony

July

Bachelor party
Pick final floral design
Make tattoo appointment
Double check groomsmen’s outfits
Make a sign for the bar
Make a sign for the cake
Gather Bibles for ring bearers
Attend hair & makeup trials
Find somewhere to donate flowers
Make music play-list for pre-wedding
Decide & donate in lieu of a gift
Bridal Shower
Bachelorette party
Write thank-yous for bridal shower
Send thank-yous for bridal shower
Make place cards
Obtain marriage license
Decide on tips for vendors
Design thank you/tips for vendors
Make a sign for the guest book
Finalize day-of timeline
Design programs
Make programs
Design menu cards
Make menu cards
Schedule rehearsal dinner tasting
Decide on rehearsal dinner food
Compile picture list for photographer
Decide on rehearsal dinner decor & put it all together
Confirm who’s taking us to and from the church
Wrap gifts for bridal party

August

Pick up my gorgeous dress
Drop all reception items off
Drop all church items off
Steam & deliver tablecloths to reception venue
Assemble bathroom supplies
Print & distribute day-of timeline
Get married
Have an amazing honeymoon
Get forever marriage tattoos… yeah, we’re doing that.

Hair Inspiration and a To-Do Update

Lately I’ve been really thinking about the wedding hair.  Earlier in the week I got an email from my salon detailing a special on gift cards… and they have no idea what’s comin.  I’m getting $125 gift cards for just $100, and using them all on wedding prep and day-of costs!

For my bridal party gifts, K and I will be paying for their hair the day of the wedding.  That means for updo’s I’ll have the bride (me!), 3 bridesmaids, and 2 mothers to pay for.  At between $60 and $100 each, that adds up pretty darn quickly!  In addition, we’re having the 4 little girls’ hair done, which is at least $100 each because of their texture.  Washing, drying, straightening, and curling four little afros is a big task.

I think we’re completely booking the salon’s morning hair appointments, and I’m lookin forward to it.

I’m really excited to have my hair and makeup (which was complimentary for me and my mom!) done, so tonight when I’m buying 1k worth of beauty gift cards I’ll schedule my trials for both.  I don’t know if it makes more sense to say my credit card will feel heavier or lighter, but whatever.  It’s going to feel the damage.

In any case, here are some of the styles I’ve liked, which I’ll show my stylist when I go.  Enjoy!

I like the updo below but with my bangs instead of the front curls.  Also, my earrings will be a bit shorter.

Low updoImage via Kate Ketzal

This one is absolutely gorgeous.  It looks to me like a side updo, though, and I want a middle back one.

Side updoImage via Style Me Pretty

Here we have the last, but definitely not least, inspiration picture.  Isn’t it just gorgeous?

Stunning updoImage via who-knows-where-the-link-is-blocked-on-Pinterest.  Copyright “brian borup” though!

Now onto a bit of a to-do update… I finally got my invitations finished, but I’m waiting on my post office to get the stamps in for the RSVP cards and invitations.  Hopefully tomorrow I’ll be sending one to myself as a test.  Excited? You bet.

I also talked to K about what he wants the men to wear, and we just haven’t found anywhere to rent what we’re looking for.  Even if places have suits for rent, the corresponding vests are 3 button tux-like ones instead of the 4 or 5 button vested suit ones.  So, we’re looking at having them buy cheaper suits… and it looks like it might actually turn out cheaper than renting!

Most exciting for me was that I picked my florist last night.  Not excited that I have to call all the other florists to say I won’t be using them, but having the flowers decided is a total weight off my mind.  So few big decisions left, and my stress level may begin to go down.

Jk. Check out my to-do list.

April

Book hair & makeup trials
Sign band contract & pay deposit
Sign florist contract & pay deposit
Schedule final dress fitting
Buy postage for invitations
Buy postage for RSVP cards
Assemble invitations
Mail completed invitation to myself
Mail invitations
Buy postage for Thank-you cards
Gather $$ from bridesmaids (since I ordered their dresses)
Design marriage advice thing
Make marriage advice thing
Order K’s suit
Talk to church organist
Organize church rental availability like candelabras
Start premarital counseling (first session scheduled)
Pick groomsmen’s suits
Get addresses to finalize guest list (only 3 left)

May

Have engagement pictures taken (scheduled… can’t wait!)
Design thank-you cards
Pick up bridesmaids’ dresses
Mail bridesmaids’ dresses to sister & future sister-in-law
Pick up my wedding band
Have our wedding bands engraved
Make veil
Buy K’s shoes
Order photo book for guest book
Reserve hotel rooms
Make shoe stickers
Buy rehearsal dinner outfit
Decide on a hair clip if any
Book dinners on honeymoon
Order ceremony sheet music
Book an accompanist if needed
Talk to officients about ceremony
Talk song list with the band
Find bracelet for bride
Decide on ceremony music
Buy baskets for programs
Buy baskets for kids’ books

June

Attend final dress fitting
Help find a MoB dress
Make garter
Compile day-of emergency kit
Organize outfits for getting ready
Design table numbers
Make table numbers
Design & start place cards
Find family pictures to showcase if any

July

Bachelor party
Pick final floral design
Make tattoo appointment
Double check groomsmen’s outfits
Make a sign for the bar
Make a sign for the cake
Gather Bibles for ring bearers
Attand hair & makeup trials
Find place to donate flowers
Make playlist for pre-wedding
Make thank-you cards
Decide & donate in lieu of a gift
Bridal Shower
Bachelorette party
Send thank-yous for bridal shower
Make place cards
Obtain marriage license
Decide on tips for vendors
Design thank you/tips for vendors
Make a sign for the guest book
Finalize day-of timeline
Design programs
Make programs
Design menu cards
Make menu cards
Schedule rehearsal dinner tasting
Decide on rehearsal dinner food
Compile picture list for photographer
Decide on rehearsal dinner decor & put it all together
Confirm who’s taking us to and from the church
Wrap gifts for bridal party

August

Drop all reception items off
Drop all church items off
Steam & deliver tablecloths to reception venue
Assemble bathroom supplies
Print & distribute day-of timeline
Get married
Have an amazing honeymoon
Get forever marriage tattoos… yeah, we’re doing that.

Flower Inspiration and a To-Do Update

I’m having trouble deciding on a florist… Because flowers aren’t the most important to me in the wedding, our budget is fairly small for the ideas we have.  Though I’m confident I’ll be happy on our big day, it’s still a little nerve wracking considering…

OUR WEDDING IS 4 MONTHS FROM TODAY!

Yippee!  Last night, dozing off to sleep on the couch curled up next to my handsome husband to be, I realized that in just four months I’ll be sleeping in a hotel room, mentally and physically prepping to become his wife.  What almost-newlywed bliss, right? ;-)

 

Let’s do a little flower inspiration recap.  Tonight I have yet another florist meeting, so maybe this will inspire me to want to yet again go over my thoughts and wants for our fabulous wedding.

 

We’ll start off with some general feel, reception centerpiece ideas.  I love the concept of mostly ivories and lots of dark greens, maybe with a little splash of champagne/gold and navy blue.  Keep in mind, I bought champagne tablecloths.
Gorgeous feel

Image via The Knot

Maybe it’s because I grew up on a farm, but I’d love to incorporate some non-traditional stuff like veggies into our decor.  Artichokes? Cabbage? Hmmm… What else could we use…
Non-traditional centerpiecesImage via The Knot

Yum!  Let's do it.

Image via Style Me Pretty

Moving on to our gorgeous bride’s bouquet (*bats eyelashes*)…

I’d love to carry mostly ivory flowers, maybe with a champagne/gold dusted bud or two.
LOVE THIS BOUQUET.Image via No Knows Weddings

And prefer a more organic arrangement than a tight ball.
Lambs Ear would be nice and symbolicImage via Brides.com

As for bridesmaid’s bouquets, anything goes.  They’ll be in dark teal knee length dresses, so anything more colorful than my bouquet will look awesome against them.  I’d love some dark thistles.  Almost the only thing I don’t like about these bouquets is the burlap… not in my wedding!
Gorgeous bouquetsImage via Ruffled, photo by Meg Baisden

Can’t forget about the arm candy and focal point of the day (ha!)…

THE MEN!

How does this look for a boutonniere?  I think we could fancy it up a bit by nixing the twine.  Doncha think?
Love the colors and simplicityImage via Poppies & Posies

Now on to my little update.  Not much has changed since last week, considering I’ve had a busy week of motorcycle crashes (ouch!), a family birthday (and yummy cake!), a spontaneous Phillies game (wahoo!), and wedding appointments.  I did manage complete a place card design.  Props to Keith for being the decision maker on that one.  Still can’t decide on how to do our inner envelope for the invites, though.  Since we didn’t send save the dates, I should probably get on those babies to send through our trusty snail mail, huh.  I’ll get there eventually.

This weekend K and I will go pick out and order our wedding bands.  We’re thinking Etsy for his, but his ring finger still needs sizing so we don’t screw it up.

Overall:
1. Set a date
2. Book a venue
3. Book photographers
4. Schedule & have engagement photos taken (requested the date, but no confirm yet)
5. Book videographer
6. Book band
7. Ask bridal party to join us for our big day
8. Create a wedding website
9. Pick flowers & florist
10. Buy bridal gown
11. Pick & order bridesmaid dresses
12. Order K’s outfit, shoes, accessories
13. Pick groomsmen’s outfits (tried, but didn’t see anything quite right)
14. Make veil
15. Book the florist
16. Buy bridal shoes
17. Pick the cake (just have to get approval on this one!)
18. Pick and order flower girl outfits
19. Pick and order the girls’ outfits
20. Finalize the guest list
21. Coordinate the “ring bearer pillow”
22. Order guest book (can’t do until we get our engagement pictures back)
23. Register for presents
24. Reserve the hotel room block
25. Book a church
26. Go MoB/MoG dress looking
27. Something old (I’m thinking of making a garter out of vintage lace)
28. Something new
29. Something borrowed (Story on this one… I’m borrowing the earrings my cousin gave his wife for their wedding.  This past weekend their place was robbed! They didn’t take the jewelry, though.  Weird robbers I guess.)
30. Something blue
31. Figure out wedding jewelry: earrings, bracelet, possible hair clip
32. Find/make a garter
33. Meet with the day-of coordinator for seating plan
34. Compile a day-of emergency kit
35. Book hair and makeup
36. Book hair and makeup trials: July
37. Find somewhere to donate day old flowers
38. Decide what to wear to get ready in
39. Confirm donation in lieu of a gift
40. Schedule/attend menu tasting
41. Have the final dress fitting
40. Design invitations: Invite, Extras, RSVP Card, Inner Envelope
41. Order invitation paper
42. Mail invitation to myself
43. Buy postage for invitations
44. Mail invitations
45. Buy groomsmen gifts (half done)
46. Pick wedding bands: bride & groom
47. Purchase wedding bands: bride & groom
48. Talk song list with the band
49. Talk to photographer about picture list
50. Get the marriage license
51. Confirm transportation from church to venue
52. Gift for groom (Hey, K… gift for bride, too!)
53. Cocktail hour music
54. Make thank-you notes: Shower, Wedding
55. Make signs for things: cake table, bar, gift table, escort card table
56. Make a card box
57. Make an advice thing
58. Tips/thank you’s for vendors
59. Pack for wedding weekend
60. Finalize day-of timeline & distribute
61. Talk to the church organist
62. Decide on & order music for ceremony
63. Premarital counseling
64. Design & make programs
65. Design & make place cards
66. Order reception rentals: tablecloths
67. Order candles for reception & ceremony
68. Find some family pictures to showcase
69. Pick menu
70. Design & make table numbers
71. Bathroom supplies: bandaids, hair spray
72. Book rehearsal dinner
73. Rehearsal dinner tasting & pick final menu
74. Rehearsal dinner decor
75. Attend a fab bridal shower
76. Have a wild bachelorette party
77. Have a tame bachelorette party
78. Help K recover from his bachelor party: 1 & 2
79. Book honeymoon
80. Shop for honeymoon clothes
81. Buy rehearsal dinner outfit
82. Finish the veil
83. Finalize bridal shower invite list
84. Complete addresses in guest list (only 5 more, all on K’s side!)
85. Sign up for honeymoon excursions & make dinner reservations
86. Find out what rentals the church offers
87. Talk to officiants about their normal ceremony stuff
88. Make sure registries are accessible

If you have ideas for the items not marked in black or maybe even want to help out, comment below or tag me on Pinterest.